But she is killing me. Okay all you seasoned mother's; How do I get this 9 month old to sleep her pretty little eyes through the night? I've read the books, but maybe I just need a real good pep talk. I can't hardly stand her cries in the night, but that's probably what it takes. Once she does finally sleep soundly, then I feel she can finally share a room with her big sister instead of her lodgings of late. Help?
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I am not a "seasoned" mother, nor do I pretend to be, but I suffered as you are now. Owen woke every hour on the hour until he was 7 months old. I was a walking zombie.
I read the book "Secrets of the Baby Whisperer." I took many of the things she said with a grain of salt, but ultimately, the book gave me some ideas and soothing techniques which saved my life. I had to gear up for it and it took Owen about 4 days to learn, but now he is a great sleeper! If you want to talk, call me or email me and I will explain the concept and what I did. Regardless of what you decide to do, it will be hard for a few days, but it will get better if you are consistent and you will be blessing her life (and yours) in the long run.
Even though it's the most heart-wrenching thing ever (unless you can get tired and angry enough), I don't know how to do it without some crying it out. I like "Healthy Sleep Habit, Happy Child." But you'll figure it out. Eden sleeps, right? So Ava will too, eventually! You're a great mom!
Yeah, I did Baby Whisperer--the tanking up system seems to always help. Maybe swaddle her--I know she's older but being bundle might help. Does she have a favorite blankie or teddy bear? Keep up a routine and she'll eventually get it.
Crying it out is torture but it worked with all four of mine. The first night they cried for a couple of hours. Me going in to sooth every 10-15 minutes. The next night they cried less than an hour and by the third night they fussed a few minutes then drifted peacefully off to sleep. You definitely want to try it on a night when your husband can stand to lose a little sleep and give you moral support. Good luck with whatever you try!
Thanks for all the support. Okay, I'm gearing up!...
You ARE a good mom, Carolyn.
If it is too hard... pick a couple of nights where Aaron will be home (ha, I know... crazy to suggest...) and just leave. Or ipod it with good headphones.
Remember, you are teaching her the life skill of falling asleep. Necessary.
I, too, used "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child." He is a sleep Nazi, but I took bits and pieces... which seems to be what every mom needs to do... educate herself and then apply it to her specific child. You know cute Ava best!
Let us know how room-sharing goes when you get to that point!
I finally visited your site and I love it. I really should have been checking this out more often. The girls are beautiful and you are so creative! I am truly impressed. Way to go Carolyn!
Carolyn, I am a seasoned mom, and my 7 yr old still doesn't sleep through the night! I hate it but the crying thing really is all that works for some kids. I did have a pediatrician tell me, most parenting issues could be solved if everyone got more sound sleep. Hang in there!!
my kiddies all did crying it out. i did it from an early age and it worked wonders. they both slept thru the night really quickly. it know it's harder with older babies, but it's worth it in the end. put her down and let her cry for 10 minutes. watch the clock! wait 10 minutes! then go in and see her, hug her, pat her, put her back down. wait 10 minutes more. or 15 minutes, this time. she will eventually go to sleep. follow this if she wakes up throughout the night. it's hard, but seriously, it's so worth it. the key is to set your time limit ahead of time and watch the clock. it seems like forever when they're crying, but if you watch the clock, it's not usually as long as it seems. good luck, mama! you'll get there!
Carrow!!!
I was looking thru old emails, saw this, and all I have to say is
THE BABY WHISPERER!!!! She truly saved my life with Brynlee, and I used all her tricks with Jr. Jr. She's the best, she's knows her stuff, and her book will carry you thru to toddler stuff (in case you've forgotten anything or never knew in the first place). Good luck!
Yeah! Tammy Jean is alive! Thanks for commenting TJ. I'm glad you are around.
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